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Autism: Love The Puzzle by karibous-boutique
Autism: Love The Puzzle
As you may know, April is Autism Awareness Month. I think it's fair to say that most people ARE aware of autism in a way that they weren't a decade ago. It's a beautiful thing, knowing that the world is rooting for you. Still... autism awareness means something different in my house than it might in yours. And I'd like to share a little -- okay, maybe more than a little -- of my own awareness with you.

When I look at my family, I don't see autism. Oh, sure, it's there. But I think I experience it in the same way that most people experience the sound of their furnace running or the smell of their fabric softener. It's there. But it isn't something you really dwell on. Having said that, it wasn't always that way for me. Watching my son struggle to find words when other children -- including his twin sister -- seemed to communicate effortlessly... that hurt. The diagnosis -- or lack thereof -- was scary and frustrating and confusing. Autism carries with it an underlying note of uncertainty, especially when your child is very young. After all, most toddlers are impulsive and not terribly empathetic, so it's sometimes incredibly difficult to get a handle on what behaviors are "autism" and what are "normal 2-year-old kid." That whole "spectrum" thing is also maddening. How can you plan for your child's future when you have no clear -- or, hell, even moderately foggy -- picture of what that future might look like? Oh sure, I know life is uncertain. Anything can happen to anyone without warning. But we stay sane by making reasonable assumptions and planning accordingly. Autism pretty much tosses those assumptions out the window. And you must learn to fly in the dark. Without instruments. Sometimes, in bad weather. So, you pray a lot and laugh when you can... and you cry when you just... can't.

At age 11 (and a half!) Evan's future is much easier to envision. Sort of. I'm not one of those parents who imagines that my son's autism won't, in some ways, limit him. I can sometimes hear a collective intake of breath from other special-needs parents when I say things like, "Evan will probably never drive. He will likely not go to college. He will probably never live independently, without some kind of assistance. He isn't likely to have a career. He probably won't get married, or even date." Some people feel that *I* am limiting Evan by making those statements. Autism, however, has made me a pragmatist. How couldn't it? Faced with the certainty that your son will NOT eat Thanksgiving turkey and stuffing and mashed potatoes, you pack peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Maybe other parents have gifts of time and patience that I simply lack, but there are just some battles I've stopped fighting. I prefer to think of this, not as losing, but as strategizing. And God bless those wonderful parents who have managed to coax more than seven foods into their child's diet.

Autism can, indeed, be incredibly taxing to every member of my family and to the other angels who watch over Evan every day. The meltdowns, especially on bad days, are exhausting and frustrating and demoralizing. I live in terror of the day when those meltdowns happen in a child who is bigger and stronger than I am. Because, in all likelihood, that day is approaching quickly. Meal planning is always a balancing act -- eat his limited menu or make two meals? Prying electronic devices out of his hands is an ever-present struggle. And then, there's the awareness that he's... different. He has wonderful classmates who are understanding and patient. But he doesn't have "friends" in the way most of us understand it. He demonstrates grade-level proficiency in his schoolwork, but couldn't possibly conquer lessons and homework without one-on-one assistance. Even with assistance, it's sometimes a very rocky road. Every child is unique. But Evan is a daffodil in a rainbow-colored rose garden.

And that's the flip-side of my own, personal autism awareness. I'm blessed with this flip-side and I know it. Evan doesn't have Asperger Syndrome. He has Autism. To my knowledge, he isn't concerned with his daffodil status. He's content to bloom in his own way, exactly the way God made him. Anyone observing him can see his lack of "normal" social skills. But Ev, happily frolicking on Planet Evan, doesn't at all seem worried by the social disconnect between him and his peers. He isn't aloof or non-affectionate. He loves a hug or a tickle as much as the next kid. He just doesn't seem to suffer from that desperate need for approval that most of us struggle with regularly. And Evan's autism is fairly-high-functioning autism. We don't experience the terrible burden of constant, violent meltdowns that some families face. He's toilet trained. He sleeps regularly. Evan has language, disordered though it might be. Heaven knows, he can tell you EXACTLY what he needs to, so far as his priorities go. Other children with autism aren't so fortunate. When our primary means of human communication goes away, the burden of autism must become exponentially more difficult. Anyone with an infant can understand the frustration of having an upset child, but not knowing what's wrong or how to fix it. Even Ev's moderate disability in this area is sometimes difficult to juggle. I cannot imagine parenting a child with no language at all.

Yet... families DO successfully shine with other colors in the autism rainbow. I'm a teacher. I've seen students with Asperger Syndrome who WILL drive a car and CAN live independently. And I've seen -- and greatly admired -- families whose children are profoundly limited by autism, but have adapted and thrived in spite of the challenges.

I've never really "learned to live" with autism. That implies some sort of active acceptance process that I never really participated in. I didn't DO anything. I just stopped noticing it as much. There are moments, incredibly painful moments, when I see the things my son will never experience and I grieve that loss profoundly. But the grief, thankfully, is my own and not Evan's. And most of the time, I'm brilliantly delighted with and overwhelmingly proud of my beautiful, unique daffodil.

April is Autism Awareness Month. Take some time to smell the daffodils.
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Windmills by karibous-boutique
Windmills
"It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts."

~Emily Perl Kingsley, "Welcome to Holland"



All resources used in the production of this work are owned by, created by, or licensed to me for personal and commercial use. They include: The Windmill (Merlin Studios), Jigsaw Puzzle Piece PS Brushes (Obsidian Dawn)
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A Beautiful Murder by karibous-boutique
A Beautiful Murder
"I dreamt I saw you walking
Up a hillside in the snow
Casting shadows on the winter sky
As you stood there counting crows"


~ Counting Crows, from 'A Murder of One'



All resources used in the production of this work are owned by, created by, or licensed to me for personal and commercial use. They include:The Lilithai Strigoia Bundle, Volume 1; The Qabbalah - Zadacchiel and The Qabbalah Outfit (Arki); The Malaik wings (Arki , Silverark, Spiritfoxy); Songbird Remix (Ken Gilliand); Rhene Hair (3Dream, Mairy)
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Greatest Treasures

Journal Entry: Tue Jan 20, 2015, 5:28 PM
“The greatest treasures are those invisible to the eye but found by the heart.”

~Maryanne Williamson


It was nice to look at my dA artist's page today and find myself pleased with all my "newest deviations."  Usually, I find myself wincing at one or another, thinking about what I didn't like and what I could have changed.  But today I surprised myself and felt only contentment.  Maybe it's because I haven't had much time to render -- less quantity, more quality and all that.  In any event, it was a nice moment.

I can't believe we're in 2015 -- and that we're almost 1/12th of the way through it already.  My twins turned 11 just before Christmas!  I'm going to pretend that I will age more like fine wine and less like smelly cheese... though I'm from Wisconsin, so that might not be the case!  Anyway, my resolution for the year is to not have resolutions!  I'd very much like to be more mindful and in-the-moment than I am now.  It's nice to have plans and all, but I feel I could benefit from letting go of my schedules and expectations.  I'd like to see where the year takes me.  After all, you can't be disappointed if you have no expectations, and I think I'd be happier if I could live by that idea.

As always, I have some wonderful art to share with the world!  Check out these amazing artists...

Featured Artist: : parrotdolphin

:iconparrotdolphin: parrotdolphin has long been a favorite vendor/artist of mine for her terrific commercial texture and material products.  Not surprisingly, she is also gifted outside of her virtual shop, delighting us with gorgeous 3D renders and dazzling fractals!  And while you visit her artist's page, be sure to check her journal and offer your condolences on her "untimely demise. "  (Read her journal and you'll understand!)

Earrings by parrotdolphin O No Sluggo ! by parrotdolphin Chainmail Sisterhood 2 by parrotdolphin Bob Decides to Become a Cowboy by parrotdolphin Evil Queen by parrotdolphin In My Weber by parrotdolphin Pink Scales by parrotdolphin Imaginary Knight by parrotdolphin Kiss Me Now by parrotdolphin Watching by parrotdolphin



Featured Artist: : jacktomalin

:iconjacktomalin: Speaking of amazing 3D content creators... jacktomalin is a god among men when it comes to modeling AMAZING 3D architecture and scenery.  I have no idea how he manages to be so prolific without compromising on quality.  (But I'm sure glad he is!)  The art in his gallery isn't just rendered beautifully, it's modeled that way, too.  (Be sure you download the images for the full-resolution experience!)

Aslan Court 3 by jacktomalin Mortis for Sacrament by jacktomalin Kingdom of Marrakesh - Sunset by jacktomalin Welcome to West Park by jacktomalin Invetero (Night) by jacktomalin Aslan Court Complete by jacktomalin Bridge of Cheirocrates - Octane by jacktomalin Oriental Tranquility - Awakening by jacktomalin Classic Deco Eclectic 2 by jacktomalin Parkside Heath Cemetery Gates by jacktomalin



Featured Artist: : BJPentecost

:iconbjpentecost: When I first stumbled across the amazing gallery of BJPentecost, I was blown away by the incredible detail displayed in every breathtaking image.  She is truly a master of visual, digital art!  I can't possibly express in writing how rich, emotional, and glorious her works are -- and I don't have to because they speak for themselves.  It's also worth noting that her comments are nearly as delightful as her art!  She has a wonderfully down-to-earth voice that is both humorous and thoughtful.  

I will not be coming back this time by BJPentecost Gathering of the Whitewood by BJPentecost Book Of Lies by BJPentecost A Green Boak by BJPentecost Figure Drawing Class by BJPentecost The Story of Tamacier by BJPentecost Blue Exorcist Page 1 (see comments first) by BJPentecost The Archanic Flutist by BJPentecost The Wolfgoat Demon by BJPentecost Pentecost Rainbow Finchgryph by BJPentecost


Stamp: I Heart Coffee by sugar-lust Dark Starbucks Stamp by l8 Poser Addict Stamp by taterbug Poser Pro Stamp by MythArcana Woman that knows by Claire-stamps
Authentic Cheesehead Stamp by Goku-san Packers Stamp by Jamaal10 Logo: Ford Mustang by TheStampKing Muscle mustang 2 by DeviantSith Incredible Parts by animedevildog
Stamp: 44th US President by FantasyStockAvatars Democrat stamp. by slipzen-stamp Autism Awareness Stamp II by RetroZombie Autism Stamp by theestephasaurusrex Autism Speaks Stamp by karibous-boutique
Homophobia is Gay - Stamp by padfootsmyhero Gay Rights Stamp by ashleyspurlin Human Rights Campaign Stamp by karibous-boutique Magic Missile by Trivia-Master NERD Stamp by Kojima2087
Newtoanian Physics Stamp by Emberpelt Science by emptyidentityentity Science Fancy by karibous-boutique I heart Pearl Jam -Stamp- by V1chy Big Block of Cheese Day by StegeKay
Intel Core i7 Stamp by karibous-boutique Jesus Saves by Persnicketese Hello, my name is.. by cfryant Mental Illness Stamp by funlakota Life needs... by Ishdakitty
Stargate SG1 Farewell Stamp by Trounced Stargate - Jack's Pants by karibous-boutique Ba'al stamp by Baal-Fan The Art of Stargate Stamp by The-Art-of-Stargate Farscape Stamp ::2:: by Golubaja


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Proud of our Wisconsin teachers. When the product of your labor is a child's future, you must stand up for what you know is right. Funding my publicly-educated autistic son's paraprofessional should come before funding freeway interchanges. Period.


Madison, WI Protests 4 by cyspence Firefighters Against Walker by orchidjay Stop Scott by Party9999999 Walk for Your Rights by iamkeebler Madison, WI Protests 3 by cyspence


Denim Moon by karibous-boutique
Denim Moon
"The hermit doesn't sleep at night, in love with the blue of the vacant moon. The cool of the breeze that rustles the trees rustles him too."
-Ching An

 
For the RDNA monthly master's challenge, which is to render an image in blue with only one point light.  I wanted to do something a little grittier than my usual work, so I wound up in an alley. The postwork was added to give it a little grunge, but the color is all original to the unprocessed render.

No radioactive chickens were injured in the production of this image.

Chicken by karibous-boutique
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Greatest Treasures

Journal Entry: Tue Jan 20, 2015, 5:28 PM
“The greatest treasures are those invisible to the eye but found by the heart.”

~Maryanne Williamson


It was nice to look at my dA artist's page today and find myself pleased with all my "newest deviations."  Usually, I find myself wincing at one or another, thinking about what I didn't like and what I could have changed.  But today I surprised myself and felt only contentment.  Maybe it's because I haven't had much time to render -- less quantity, more quality and all that.  In any event, it was a nice moment.

I can't believe we're in 2015 -- and that we're almost 1/12th of the way through it already.  My twins turned 11 just before Christmas!  I'm going to pretend that I will age more like fine wine and less like smelly cheese... though I'm from Wisconsin, so that might not be the case!  Anyway, my resolution for the year is to not have resolutions!  I'd very much like to be more mindful and in-the-moment than I am now.  It's nice to have plans and all, but I feel I could benefit from letting go of my schedules and expectations.  I'd like to see where the year takes me.  After all, you can't be disappointed if you have no expectations, and I think I'd be happier if I could live by that idea.

As always, I have some wonderful art to share with the world!  Check out these amazing artists...

Featured Artist: : parrotdolphin

:iconparrotdolphin: parrotdolphin has long been a favorite vendor/artist of mine for her terrific commercial texture and material products.  Not surprisingly, she is also gifted outside of her virtual shop, delighting us with gorgeous 3D renders and dazzling fractals!  And while you visit her artist's page, be sure to check her journal and offer your condolences on her "untimely demise. "  (Read her journal and you'll understand!)

Earrings by parrotdolphin O No Sluggo ! by parrotdolphin Chainmail Sisterhood 2 by parrotdolphin Bob Decides to Become a Cowboy by parrotdolphin Evil Queen by parrotdolphin In My Weber by parrotdolphin Pink Scales by parrotdolphin Imaginary Knight by parrotdolphin Kiss Me Now by parrotdolphin Watching by parrotdolphin



Featured Artist: : jacktomalin

:iconjacktomalin: Speaking of amazing 3D content creators... jacktomalin is a god among men when it comes to modeling AMAZING 3D architecture and scenery.  I have no idea how he manages to be so prolific without compromising on quality.  (But I'm sure glad he is!)  The art in his gallery isn't just rendered beautifully, it's modeled that way, too.  (Be sure you download the images for the full-resolution experience!)

Aslan Court 3 by jacktomalin Mortis for Sacrament by jacktomalin Kingdom of Marrakesh - Sunset by jacktomalin Welcome to West Park by jacktomalin Invetero (Night) by jacktomalin Aslan Court Complete by jacktomalin Bridge of Cheirocrates - Octane by jacktomalin Oriental Tranquility - Awakening by jacktomalin Classic Deco Eclectic 2 by jacktomalin Parkside Heath Cemetery Gates by jacktomalin



Featured Artist: : BJPentecost

:iconbjpentecost: When I first stumbled across the amazing gallery of BJPentecost, I was blown away by the incredible detail displayed in every breathtaking image.  She is truly a master of visual, digital art!  I can't possibly express in writing how rich, emotional, and glorious her works are -- and I don't have to because they speak for themselves.  It's also worth noting that her comments are nearly as delightful as her art!  She has a wonderfully down-to-earth voice that is both humorous and thoughtful.  

I will not be coming back this time by BJPentecost Gathering of the Whitewood by BJPentecost Book Of Lies by BJPentecost A Green Boak by BJPentecost Figure Drawing Class by BJPentecost The Story of Tamacier by BJPentecost Blue Exorcist Page 1 (see comments first) by BJPentecost The Archanic Flutist by BJPentecost The Wolfgoat Demon by BJPentecost Pentecost Rainbow Finchgryph by BJPentecost


Stamp: I Heart Coffee by sugar-lust Dark Starbucks Stamp by l8 Poser Addict Stamp by taterbug Poser Pro Stamp by MythArcana Woman that knows by Claire-stamps
Authentic Cheesehead Stamp by Goku-san Packers Stamp by Jamaal10 Logo: Ford Mustang by TheStampKing Muscle mustang 2 by DeviantSith Incredible Parts by animedevildog
Stamp: 44th US President by FantasyStockAvatars Democrat stamp. by slipzen-stamp Autism Awareness Stamp II by RetroZombie Autism Stamp by theestephasaurusrex Autism Speaks Stamp by karibous-boutique
Homophobia is Gay - Stamp by padfootsmyhero Gay Rights Stamp by ashleyspurlin Human Rights Campaign Stamp by karibous-boutique Magic Missile by Trivia-Master NERD Stamp by Kojima2087
Newtoanian Physics Stamp by Emberpelt Science by emptyidentityentity Science Fancy by karibous-boutique I heart Pearl Jam -Stamp- by V1chy Big Block of Cheese Day by StegeKay
Intel Core i7 Stamp by karibous-boutique Jesus Saves by Persnicketese Hello, my name is.. by cfryant Mental Illness Stamp by funlakota Life needs... by Ishdakitty
Stargate SG1 Farewell Stamp by Trounced Stargate - Jack's Pants by karibous-boutique Ba'al stamp by Baal-Fan The Art of Stargate Stamp by The-Art-of-Stargate Farscape Stamp ::2:: by Golubaja


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Proud of our Wisconsin teachers. When the product of your labor is a child's future, you must stand up for what you know is right. Funding my publicly-educated autistic son's paraprofessional should come before funding freeway interchanges. Period.


Madison, WI Protests 4 by cyspence Firefighters Against Walker by orchidjay Stop Scott by Party9999999 Walk for Your Rights by iamkeebler Madison, WI Protests 3 by cyspence


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karibous-boutique
Karen
Artist | Hobbyist | Digital Art
United States
I may be soft in your palm but I'll soon grow
Hungry for a fight, and I will not let you win.
My pretty mouth will frame the phrases that will
Disprove your faith in man.
So if you catch me trying to find my way into your
Heart from under your skin...
Fast as you can, baby scratch me out, free yourself
Fast as you can...

-Fiona Apple

Current Residence: Purgatory,
Favourite genre of music: Seattle Grunge,
Operating System: Win 7 Pro,
Favourite cartoon character: Dr. Heinz Doofenshmirtz,
Personal Quote: Curse you, Perry the Platypus!!!
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karibous-boutique Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh, I love your stuff!  I have Dragon Leaf and Cherry Delight and a few of your firearms, I believe!  :) 
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Limnery Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Your postwork videos are wonderful. Thank you!
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karibous-boutique Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you!  There are eventually going to be more -- I began putting one together about using adjustment layers, blur techniques, and touch-ups.  But then life happened, lol.  I'm coaching my daughter's Lego Robotics team and my spare time has been eaten!
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Limnery Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's an excellent use for spare time! :thumbsup:
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